Yess… I am
getting married, getting married to the love of my life.. Yes it is an inter-caste
marriage where ME, the girl belongs to a Punjabi Family, and HIM, the guy
belongs to a Hindu Jaiswal Family.. Both families based in a small town where
LOVE Marriage is a taboo and if topped by wedding between 2 individuals of
different castes, it becomes a social stigma.. and we the lovebirds are reduced
to victims of social norms.. Love is strong or atleast it makes you feel strong-headed
enough, as it did in my case.. It took me a whole 1 year and 6 months to get my
parents convinced to the fact that in a marriage 2 people loving each other is more
important than the society agreeing to it.. Equally difficult for him was to
convince his parents.. but it seems that some things are fate, destiny, written…
coz finally both the set of parents agreed, and man not just did they agree,
but they were happy.. really happy… and that is what brought us happiness…
And now we have a date.. 25th April
2012, to transform our love into a strong bond…
Here I am, 91 Days away from My D-Day… thinking of what will it be like
to live the taboo.., How to I make people/ friends/ family overcome this
stigma.. I can already see few hiccups… my extended in laws not getting tuned to
the idea of Inter caste wedding… Their response on getting to know about the
wedding – “Hamara Beta aisa nahi kar sakta,
itne sanskaro se pala hai humne use” – Does it mean falling in love is apke sanskaron k khilaf?? Just because
their ladla beta has chosen a bahu outside their religion / caste, so
he becomes the villain of the extended family (Read Mausis / Mamas). And the
added expectation from me-“ Dekhte hain
dusri jaat ki bahu kaisi hogi” – Soo much performance pressure.. more than
what I had in my MBA Exams.. It might sound ridiculous to even be bothered
about the extended family, but honestly, I am not bothered about them, I am
bothered about my In laws, coz in someways it’s my responsibility to be a Good Bahu , so as to make everybody swallow their
words… I know what I have to do – To Please everyone, the question is HOW?? And this is only the beginning, don’t even ask
me about whts going on my mind about adjusting in the small town, being a housewife
(for sometime), having a new family.. ohh the kind of panic attacks I get these
days… Let’s see how will things move… till then I am waiting.. Basking in the
joy of atleast having a date on hand… Have quit my job and all I do these days is
google, read, browse for images on decoration ideas, lehnga patterns. Mehndi designs..
and everything girly which I never did earlier… so yess I am enjoying this break
from work… and afterall I deserve it
atleast now, coz 3 months from now, I may be busy making lavish dinner menu for
my new family.. I know it is only tea-time now.. but then I will need time to
think.. to do the prep and to patao My Sasu Ma with a Smile, to make her help me
in the kitchen without offending her :)….
All the best
to me :)
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